When you feel like you’ve got the hang of juggling all the balls, it’s best to add one more to keep things interesting. 🙂
And so, we’ll be adding one more March 5.
This means that, if the littlest one waits until its due date, we’ll have two under two years old for about five months.
I’ve heard this could be tricky and exhausting and I’m open to any advice.
The decision to have two close in age wasn’t always obvious. I wavered quite a lot as Sophie moved out of her blob phase and into mobility.
Hearing about the poor moms who had barely recovered from child birth discovering their birth control failed and were awaiting the arrival of their Irish twins, babies born within 12 months of each other, I could hardly imagine the panic I’d be in.
My focus was on clearing the hurdles of the bit of postpartum depression/anxiety I’d developed, sleep deprivation and, what I believe now is an emotional drain from breastfeeding.
Wouldn’t it be nice to get back to “normal” before diving in again? Give it three years … or so.
But I also liked the idea of having kids close in age. Dominique and his brother are about two years apart. My estranged brother and I were less than two years apart and from what I understand, though we don’t speak now, we were very close as children.
Add to that my “advanced maternal age” and having a second baby started to make more sense.
My mom said having two close in age was easier than the age difference between her middle and youngest — about 4 years. You’re already in the baby mindset. You’re used to no sleep and keeping toddlers out of harm’s way. A baby after moving out of that phase of parenthood can be a bit of a shocker.
Add to that some observations from a friend who reminded me that it’s a little trickier finding entertainment for kids who are a bit farther apart in age and development.
The scales eventually tipped in the direction of sooner rather than later and I never looked back.
We are all excited for March and the new life joining our family.